Happy New Year peeps!
I was away visiting my parents for the last week of December – and I got to spend time with my baby brother (yayy!!) after almost two years. Everyday, every few hours, I wrote a post in my head and I could easily have grabbed a laptop and got to it, but I wanted to truly live in the moment.
They day I got back to Delhi, it was all wiped out! I thought I’d do one on resolutions but I’ve rarely managed to keep one past the 1st of January so I thought I’d look back on last year and put down what I’ve learned – both through my own personal experience as well as through observation. A lot of it sounds like what you’d receive in an email forward but I’m going to do it anyway because these are things that have changed my life in the last year. So 12 observations for the last 12 months.
- Sometimes life gives you a second chance with people. Not just lovers and family but people who you missed befriending. Grab that second chance before it goes. It’s almost always great. And people who are meant to be part of your life – will be a part of your life. No matter what you do to push them away.
- It does take a village to raise a child and even if you have your home and heart full of people, nobody can take the place of family. You might find more people to love – but those spaces will stay reserved.
- The real and the virtual worlds often collide. Don’t fool yourself.
- Some wounds never heal. Really. They ache until you look at yourself in the mirror, fully expecting to see blood.
- If people misunderstand you – it’s their problem. You can try and you can beg and you can struggle to explain but you’re not going to succeed so give up already. And you’ll feel unbelievably lighter and happier.
- They say a marriage needs to be worked on. I agree – two people growing as individuals are bound to grow in directions that might be different and all you should need to do is sort of find a common path – but if its anything bigger than that, then you have a problem.
- It’s never the last time. Never.
- It’s never going to be enough money. Your lifestyle will keep growing as your pay cheque grows. You need to be able to draw a line before your life is reduced to only style.
- A holiday every quarter makes life worth living. Even if its a weekend getaway.
- Chocolate is always the answer. To every problem.
- No matter what I tell myself, I find myself most anxious about my parenting. It reminds me of what my dad said when I talked about being anxious before going on stage to sing. That the day you stop being anxious, you stop caring about giving your best. And so I try to sit back every few days, take stock and change my parenting and my principles. Because this is the one job that worries me more than my professional appraisal – and the only two people who will give me that pass grade might be ruined beyond words by the time I realise I have done something wrong.
- When it comes to my children, I’ll sell my soul and my principles if I have to.
So tell me – what were your learnings last year?