Praying for little Avi Ben Stella?

I’m a little hesitant about this post. Ambivalent.

I’ve been reading tweets, getting SMS, seeing blog posts, all praying for Avi Ben Stella. And with no clue as to who he is. But they ask for a prayer and that seems like a small enough request. You don’t need to drag yourself across town to donate blood, dig into your pocket and donate money or sign a petition. All you need to do is close your eyes and send up a prayer to the almighty (if you believe in one) and that is all.

But who is Avi Ben Stella and are strangers around the world really praying for him? Why? And I mean this in the nicest possible way. Simply because I don’t believe people stop to pray for their own misfortunes – praying for others seems even more unlikely.

 There’s a hymn called What a friend we have in Jesus that has a line that says ‘Take it to the Lord in prayer.’ How often do we take anything to the Lord in prayer? At this point I am sure 50 of you will point out that you do pray. Fair enough. But there will be 2500 readers who will read this and not comment because they don’t. They don’t take it to the Lord in prayer. They take it to everyone else.

For instance, I am very very nervous about the Brat being school-less since we pulled him out of the shitty school he was in until a few months ago. I prayed one night for guidance as I watched my gentle, smiley son regress into an antisocial child who shied away from strangers and the next morning I had my answer. I alone am responsible for my child’s well being and I fixed the OA with a steely glare, told him I’d had enough of my son’s spirit being broken and we were pulling him out. It’s been 4 months and the old Brat is slowly coming back.

But it’s a long process. We spend hours talking to him, playing with him, teaching him to read and write and we’re making very slow progress. We’re also now panicking because we don’t know how to get him into a new school this year since it’s going to be a lateral entry.

And all I’m doing is panic, panic, panic. You see, even I forgot to take it to the Lord in prayer.

You lose your job – and you panic, call up friends, family, head hunters, trawl the job sites. You fall ill, you start looking for various remedies, seeing every doctor possible and doing everything anyone suggests. But rarely have I heard of anyone stopping to pray or, stopping at prayer. How often do you pray and then believe in it so strongly that you are fearless thereafter? I know I turn to prayer as a last resort and I don’t know whether to be embarassed about that confession or not.

This was not meant to be a preachy post. Just a surprised one. Are people praying for that little boy? Do you pray regularly? Are you able to find it in your heart for a stranger’s little boy? Does it matter if we pray? Are prayers answered? I am so unsure.

I am not asking you to pray here for him today. Partly because I can’t ask anyone else to pray for me and my problems. I believe prayers are heard, if at all, only if you really mean it. And sometimes not even then. Because there is a larger plan and you sometimes have to lose some to just fit in.

That said, I googled it and it seems that this particular prayer request might be a bit of a hoax. Which just makes it worse, doesn’t it?


58 thoughts on “Praying for little Avi Ben Stella?

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  2. What a shame MM. All over Fb those status updates floated, and it was actualy a hoax. I was in two minds. I googled ofcourse. If only the person who started this did it for someone/something genuine and really in need of those prayers, instead. S much vela time people have. ufff. And i totally believe in mass prayers. Tch.

    Me: you do? I am such a confused person. I dither a lot on such issues.

  3. what timing!
    I have been praying a lot these days, as I see the husband going through difficult and frustrating times. It has been a long fight for him and we still cant see the end coming. We hope each day, we pray each day and go to bed disappointed but reassuring each other. I wish this would end. He does not deserve this. Sigh!

  4. that it could be a hoax is indeed sad, but that wont undermine the power of prayer in any way, will it?

    i don’t pray regularly. and yet i do have one on ones every now and then starting from something as silly as “pls dont make it rain till i get home” (which also includes giving a specific time like next 20mins to please save the world!

    and when the problem is big, for me its not about requesting for a solution, but sort of a submission that you know the best and help us. sometimes the guidance will come through and sometimes maybe there are just lessons we are meant to learn.

    and yes sometimes there are weeks and months when i havent bothered praying.

    here’s a post i had done eons ago. not of deep philosophical reasoning, just of amazement! 🙂

    i believe that prayers work and if not for major divine intervention, maybe its just the honest and positive vibes of a prayer create that miracle! 🙂


  5. MM. dear oh dear. Parallel lives we lead at times – me and you.

    But for me, its not so much prayer as meditation. Some hope that within me somewhere, in the stillness of me, there is an answer to the choas inside me.

    Oddly enough, everything is actually much clearer when you’ve taken the time to breathe through it instead of rushing about like a headless chicken.

  6. hey, don’t worry so much about the brat’s school. he’ll catch the worry and feel guilty.

    i prayed to ganpati bappa and he says its all going to work out for the best.

    hugs to a fellow mommy.

  7. I just read somebody’s FB message saying “Don’t Google Avi Ben Stella because it leads to your comp getting infected sicne it’s a virus.”

    I think my prayers are mosre like internal conversations with myself and God, and usually I work on myself and my options…coz if there is a God He only helps us help ourselves. Plus we attract the things we deeply desire with a ‘pure’ heart and also the crap we worry about needlessly:(

    Sorry to hear about Brat’s school mess. I’ll cross my fingers for you:) I’m glad you did what was right for your son to get back to his ‘right’ self. You’ll get there.

  8. I don’t exactly pray but I do have a running conversation with my God a lot of the time. 🙂 Mostly he gets scolded. A woman would never have made such a mishmash of things!

  9. hi MM, I believe in prayers and I was touched by your post. Brat is such a lovable boy…I’m sure God has better plans for him. Will keep him in my prayers today.

  10. Ohh sad ! I never got any sms or mail regarding this 😛 😀 But I am better off then..

    I prayer a quick prayer often..twice a day, before OH does his hour long drives;Just want to nudge God and let him know I want his attention 🙂

    And I often remember late to thank him for a gud day and all the things he does for us.

  11. I do believe in the power of prayer. for me, its mostly an internal conversation…no elaborate chantings or shlokas…probably coz we never learnt any as kids. Its a way to acknowledge and thank God for all the blessings received..n to ask for the strength to face life’s little troubles…
    Have faith and you’ll see a clear path where none seemed to exist 🙂

  12. Actually, I find it rather easy to pray for someone else, even, or especially a stranger, since there isnt much else I can do to help them.

    But when it comes to myself, I find it difficult to just pray to God and believe that everything will work out for the best.

  13. I do believe in the power of prayer. I do.

    However, very often, I do forget to ‘take it to the Lord’ and only remember Him as a last resort, in selfishness and desperation.

    And when these messages and mails come along, I do indeed say a quick prayer…before hitting the delete button.

    Don’t worry about the Brat’s school. I’m sure everything will work out for the best. Send him to me! I’ll put him into a school near me 🙂

  14. I actually think of prayers as means to find solace through oneself and for some peace of mind. I don’t expect to get answers through prayers. I donot regularly and exclusively pray and I’m not ashamed to say so. Because I know I will have prayed in my mind, every day, almost. But yes, it is a good thing for your own mind. Just to let all go and surrender to the divine for sometime, atleast until it all settles down in head. Gives a lot of perspective.
    BTW hope the wish the Brat gets to go to a better school soon. You’re wonderful parents and can give him all the education he needs, all by yourself.
    Love and hugs 🙂

  15. Prayer was a routine during childhood, devoid of sentiment, more like reciting tables or poems. Now, as you pointed out, in my panic I reach out to everybody except God and then if I do pray, I feel just the littlest bit helpless. Like, this was my last resort.

  16. I always pray good times or bad.. Contrary to your post my father once told me that we only pray when we are in a soup or go through difficult times.. Most people forget to pray during good or normal times..forget to thank him for his small graces… and my prayer for the day always ends with praying for the well being for everyone!

  17. i pray all the time, it calms me down when i am worried.
    The only problem is sometimes i feel i am just saying the prayers out of habit and not concentrating on them, i can say my prayers while reviewing my day in the mind.
    Good luck with getting a place for the Brat.

  18. Perhaps prayer is just ‘me and you’ time with God! Perhaps it is leaving all the cares at the Lord’s feet. Perhaps it is accepting God’s will – cheerfully. Perhaps it is a plea for greater strength. Perhaps it is a way towards peace.

    I also do not have concrete answers 🙂

    Lovely post!

  19. These days it is very hard to believe anything that comes digital. I instantly delete forwards that say forward to x # of people in x minutes. I even overlooked some genuine emails as hoaxes recently!

    I love your blog. Came across it few weeks back. Went through some archives as well.

  20. I used to pray in exam halls just before they distributed the question papers. Then I felt so hypocritical about praying only then, for such selfish things, and felt the whole thing to be so irrational that I stopped. Just breathing deeply had the same effect of focusing the mind… not that my marks are testament to that; but then for that I blame DU.

    So now I tell my prayerful friends to pray for me before exams or big events, instead. Quietly shifts the workload, the prayer gets delivered anyway, and they’re usually happy to do it!

  21. ** The hypocrisy in sending up only occasional, selfish prayers (or even selfless, as in the case of this Avi-ben hoax) lies more in the context of the overall disbelief in a higher power at more peaceful times, IMHO.

    Or would you say that prayers “must be” regular, heartfelt, sincere, and selflessly altruistic for them to be heard (or whatever)?

    Genuine question.

    Me: I dont know if anyone has the answer to that. But I notice that the general argument is this – if you believe in God… communicate with Him/Her at all times. It’s like turning to friends only in times of need and never bothering to give them a call at other times. Know what I mean?

    I do believe prayers should be sincere (or they wont be heard) I dont know about regular. And I dont know about altruistic. How many prayers are altruistic? And most of all – I believe that if something is not intended, its not going to happy no matter how much you pray.

    Remember the old one about ‘be careful what you ask for, sometimes it might come true’? Well when I pray – I usually ask God to give me what I am asking for, only if its what I deserve or is good for me. the eventual choice is in His hands. And I also ask God, not to give me what I want, but to never take away what I have. I dont know if that answered your Q

  22. Interesting discussion here. I believe that each one of us is molded by their upbringing and to personal experiences as such.. I am not sure if I will be able to lay out my thoughts clearly, but, to me prayers to the lord are a way to keep up my faith and perspective that things are fine and will be fine in the larger view of life happenings, and for a moment of concentration. Prayers with a fervor is something which I have never been able to comprehend.

  23. When I pray, I try to concentrate on my offerings to Almighty. I don’t pray if I “Have To”. I pray when I “Want To”, genuinely. It’s essential that the mind is free of all doubts. Everyone prays differently 🙂 When in dilemma/misfortune’s. a prayer usually calms my soul.

    I sent a prayer for your turmoil in admitting Brat to a new school 🙂 Everything is just gonna be alright gal 😉

  24. Oh MM, I’m touched. I forgot all about praying and somehow it took a back seat through my 20s. Like Sue, I used to have conversations with God and somehow be guided.

    Don’t worry about the brat. He is a bright kid. And you’ll bend the sky to give him what he deserves. Hugs.

  25. “Because there is a larger plan and you sometimes have to lose some to just fit in”

    I so believe in this, I might not agree with everything you write everytime but I love the way you write about any topic. Amazing!

  26. I don’t pray. But that is simple for me, because I don’t believe. So I guess it’s not a dilemma or a source of anxiety for me. I look within myself a lot. I have faith in some things around me, sometimes irrationally. I guess in some people’s books that could be called praying. I am human enough – I hope, I wish, I pine but don’t look in one place/ person (God) for resolution.

  27. This post touched a chord because this is something crosses my mind. More so recently. Since our decision to adopt, I have been finding prayers giving me miraculous answers and incredible peace of mind. All I can conclude is that prayers depend on your frame of mind as well. Like they say, when the student is ready, the master appears.

  28. But rarely have I heard of anyone stopping to pray or, stopping at prayer. How often do you pray and then believe in it so strongly that you are fearless thereafter?

    – I know someone who does that, MM. My dad. And i understood, much later in life, that it doesnt make him any lesser a person. It used to bother me when, as a child, i would see him pray over something and leave it at that. And see what he prayed for happen. An equal number of times, what he prayed for did not happen. But his faith kept/ keeps him so strong. I wish i could believe as strongly, someday.

    Praying for the Brat.

  29. You know, I do pray everyday. Mostly out of habit – isn’t that terrible ? I don’t quite know if I believe … I do know that I don’t *disbelieve*

    MM, let me tell you this – every time I’ve had a problem, and I prayed for guidance in dealing with it – it turned out things worked out for the best. Sometimes it didn’t *seem* like it was the best outcome but later I’ve realized that perhaps there was a higher power who was guiding me in unknown ways toward that outcome.

    It all depends on what you believe. Don’t worry about the Brat and his school. Your duty is toward making him a happy healthy child with or without school. When you find a school that gels with your philosophy – you’ll be at peace. And I’m sure you will find one soon.

    I’ll pray you do 🙂


  30. I couldn’t stop myself from commenting – simply because prayers are part of my existence and I am happy to be a part of that “50” club rather than being a part of “2500” strong club…..

  31. 🙂
    i pray to God. as painful as its been, I’ve been raised to be responsible/take responsibility of my own circumstances.
    I’ve never been allowed to use sources(although i come from an influential family) which now means that i just cant be satisfied until I’ve figured out a problem or found my own solution.
    and yes, my first attempt is to get into conversation with God.
    i talk, i reason, and i negotiate…
    “listen God, just this one time, and ill pray five times a day.”
    “one last time…c’mon…you know i was right…help me out here…*insert a surah or two*”
    i always feel empowered after such sessions.
    i also believe everything happens for a reason…and usually has a ‘maslihat'(a positive reason).
    while many may scoff at this, it has a sense of peace associated with it.
    now that my sermon is over…ive forgotten what exactly it is i was trying to make a point of. lol.

    and oh yea…i’ve been wondering ALL DAY who Avi Ben Stella is?

  32. Oh! forgot to add that I have to pray as I need to go back to my source every now and then to draw my power…power to face this world and be counted……power to do things that are relatively good (absolute good is fast becoming a rarity and I cant claim to be that always)….finally biggest of them all power to pray……

  33. I pray and I believe in the power of prayer. I pray for the littlest of things, and I pray for the big things too (like show me my purpose in life, dear God).

    However, I absolutely rebel against being manipulated to pray for somebody by means of email forwards or forwards in whatever form, because to date, not one has been verified as being true.

    Most of the times when I get a ‘prayer request’ like the one you have mentioned, I delete it. Sometimes I gnash my teeth or mutter something before deleting it, but delete it I do.


    @Sue’s interesting comment: Don’t know about the conversations with God, but I have a feeling He’s always very near, and I get an eerie feeling that He’s laughing at me a lot of the time. Not just me, but the rest of His bumbling creation too.

  34. MM,

    I do say a small prayer almost every day before going to bed.
    Nothing in particular. I have a short and sweet prayer ready and the lines are now by-heart for me
    Dear God Always keep my mom dad and brother and hubbys mom dad and sis happy and healthy
    ( coz as long as they are happy and healthy we will be also happy)
    Always I and my husband should have the same love for each other and keep us healthy
    (we don’t need anything more .. at the same time I want whatever we have now forever)

    That’s it – that is my prayer …
    My mantra is as long as u r happy and healthy u don’t have to worry about anything else …

    And many talked about growing up and how they were raised
    I was raised as an atheist coz my dad was/is one …
    But some where during my college years I started believing in God and started going to temples/churches/mosques..
    Not a regular – but go when I really feel like going …

    Also, about just praying and doing nothing else –
    My brother is going through a very difficult phase and I can do nothing other than pray
    I pray and belive that sooner than later all issues will go away

    Probably nothing works out of these prayers
    But they make me feel better… it is a true stress buster
    And you feel as if you have given your burden to some one else and you can rest …

  35. hmm. I don’t think praying for a hoax makes it worse. I mean why? It puts you into the act of prayer doesn’t it? Prayer which is so hard to get into, becxause we are so busy taking the reins of life into our own hands….! Then shouldn’t such an opportunity to pray, perhaps even for a fictitious boy or fictitious circumstances, be a good thing for the soul anyway? I don’t think it makes it worse MM. Any prayer and every prayer is good.

    Me: no no – I didnt mean it that way Tara. I meant that it seems awful that someone who take believers, prayerful people and try and fool them – and that too about the life of a child. How jobless can people be?

    yes, I do pray. Not every single day. Though I try. I do find it easy to pray for strangers, it stops mmaking them strange. 😀 I do believe in prayer, but I never ask for anything in specific. I ask for strength to cope with a situation, and leave the rest. So that way, my prayer is ALWAYS answered.


  36. I don’t pray. I’m agnostic and till I figure out the God thing, I’m not going to waste my time. And if there is a God, I’m sure s/he/it is so busy running the world, that he/she/it will appreciate my time management.

    That said, I can see how the idea of prayer would be calming, from a purely psychological standpoint. The need to cede control to someone else can be enormously attractive.

    Avi Ben Stella sounds like a hoax, just from the name, with my very limited knowledge of Hebrew. I haven’t heard of a Hebrew name close to Stella, though I could be wrong.

    And then there are many questions. Why would a God choose to save the life of this particular 12 year old over others? Because people engage in mass prayer? That sounds like lobbying to me.


  37. Oh and sorry to hear about your son. I think he will recover nicely, from what you’ve written on this site, you are enormously thoughtful parents and children are resilient. And the panic about school a year later? Think of it as an early gap year! I don’t actually think it will make any difference if he’s not in school for some time, esp at this young age.


  38. If it was a hoax, then I fell for it…

    but all I really did was wish for something when a friend asked me to.

    Still don’t feel like a chump…

  39. That prayer request is indeed a viral message…Everything will turn out well…As far as the school issue goes with Brat he will turn out alright…:) after all he has wonderful parents in MM and the OA and an awesome sister in the bean!

  40. I pray for the patience and strength to deal with the people in my life much of the time!!!
    I’m not always receptive , though:(
    But most people tend to pray in tough times, don’t they, and forget to be thankful for what’s good in their lives?

    As Sant Kabir put it,
    Dukh mein sumiran sab karein,
    Sukh mein karey na koi
    Jo sukh mein sumiran karey,
    toh dukh kaahey hoey?
    All the best for the school admission.

  41. PS: I guess it’s one thing to pray out of anxiety, grief or panic, and quite another to just leave yourself and your problems in God’s hands, allowing Him to do with you whatever is His will for you with complete faith, to be able to say to Him, ‘Thy will be done’.

  42. Hi MM,

    Yes, I pray daily , often, sometimes even without realising it, thanking God for all her mercies and blessings. And I strongly believe in the power of prayer. Do not worry about your son, everything will work out .. definitely yes.

    warm regards

  43. You’re right, I don’t. Actually I used to but years of training in “God helps those who help themselves” and “You are your own best friend” kind of does make praying as the last resort of the absolutely desperate…Maybe because we’re being increasingly taught to look for solutions ourselves. Don’t even know how many schools even make some time for moral science lessons now

  44. hi MM

    i’m one of the 2500 and leaving a message here too :). I’m not atheist (not yet) but am surely ignostic (that is not a typo). partly experience, partly observing the world and partly some reading has influenced my belief (or lack of it).

    But i do envy those who have faith ‘cos leaving matters in the hands of ‘god’ offers believers a huge sense of relief and peace. And prayers are how they hand their cares over to god. So if it works for them – why not? Maybe there is something in that.

    ok – i don’t think i hve been very coherent there. 😛

  45. Hey there MM,
    Being a doctor,I’m s’posed to be scientific and rational but I’ve seen too many things that fly in the face of science/rationale which makes me believe that there’s a God/Power(or whatever one perceives It to be)out there…I pray all the time(that is,have internal conversations with my God),while working(Lord,pleeease let me get this drip in first shot…this kid needs you…Thank YOU!),driving,whenever I think of a loved one mostly asking for/thanking for good health,healing,safety,occasionally(!) asking for forgiveness,etc-gives me peace.Now, rest assured there’ll be one going up for B’s school.Amen!

  46. Quite insane that there are people out there who play on sentiments! Imagine playing up religious sentiments of so many people across the globe, just for some fun.

    Don’t worry about brat am sure he will do good and you will find a great school soon. I am a strong believer that what happens to us happens for the best…though when it actually happens I crib my top off complaining about not getting what I actually wanted.But in the end I do see good behind it 🙂

    Good luck and hugs!

  47. interesting discussion. i dont pray regularly but when i do i try to focus on what i have and thank god for all his blessings. i do automatically ( i say automatically as it comes quite naturally- the moment to ‘submit’ to the higer power)pray in times of stress or panic, i ask him for strength and fortitude. i am not quite submitting but asking him to show me the right way and back me up with the choices i make. i am not sure if praying for strangers come easy to me but i do so occasionally especially when i identify with what the other person’s experiencing.

    Good luck with Brat’s school situation.

  48. i always prayed- for a long long time now and so does m- i always prayed for the well being of my family and friends and in the last 10 years, i dont think a day passed when i didnt pray for my family or not very religious but i used to have conversations with god everyday. m prays everyday and i also push him to go to church on sundays because i know he lover going to church but doesnt too often because im not a strong believer in god per say- i think its more like a relationship between best friends- i dont know if u remember, the sunday before my dad went away, it was palm sunday and i just thought that i needed to be there in church. but when dad went away, it just shook my belief completely- this is one thing that couldnt have been done for my good or to fit in the larger scheme of things. it was just such an unfair thing- i dont see reason in this and iv completely stopped praying and talking to god ever since that day. i still mutter my prayers at night but i dont believe a word i say because he/she let me down really bad and its not my place of comfort anymore. it just shook my inner soul- people say god what will only do what is best for you- im not so sure of it anymore

  49. ah! sorry i misunderstood. That’s indeed sad, and then again, not so much…becos it still engages us in prayer.

    Me: yes… its good to be engaged in prayer. not to be manipulated into it. prayer is sacred for those who believe in it.

  50. I ought to admit I am rather envious of the God(s) of the people commenting here who is obviously rewarding them with silence ( actually abject apathy but you know..) while
    my Lord FSM promptly sends me the bill( with service tax and education cess tax added ) for the Pasta partaken in His honor…

    Prayer as a psychological self affirmation tool is fine but it can hardly substitute for concrete action ( What is that? you want to be part of Junk’s Collective Unconscious? Go ahead! ) . And lets face it is hardly selfless and more of a selfish thing. I personally wish people would take more responsibility for the screw ups than “wish” it all away. But hey that’s just me.

    Whatever floats one’s boat I guess. Let me be not the one to say that not only is there no water but also no boat.

  51. *puts on the proselytizing hat*


    The Eight “I’d Really Rather You Didn’ts”

    (Capitalization and censorship as per original text)

    1. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Act Like a Sanctimonious Holier-Than-Thou Ass When Describing My Noodly Goodness. If Some People Don’t Believe In Me, That’s Okay. Really, I’m Not That Vain. Besides, This Isn’t About Them So Don’t Change The Subject.
    2. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Use My Existence As A Means To Oppress, Subjugate, Punish, Eviscerate, And/Or, You Know, Be Mean To Others. I Don’t Require Sacrifices, And Purity Is For Drinking Water, Not People.
    3. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Judge People For The Way They Look, Or How They Dress, Or The Way They Talk, Or, Well, Just Play Nice, Okay? Oh, And Get This In Your Thick Heads: Woman = Person. Man = Person. Samey = Samey. One Is Not Better Than The Other, Unless We’re Talking About Fashion And I’m Sorry, But I Gave That To Women And Some Guys Who Know The Difference Between Teal and Fuchsia.
    4. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Indulge In Conduct That Offends Yourself, Or Your Willing, Consenting Partner Of Legal Age AND Mental Maturity. As For Anyone Who Might Object, I Think The Expression Is Go F*** Yourself, Unless They Find That Offensive In Which Case They Can Turn Off the TV For Once And Go For A Walk For A Change.
    5. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Challenge The Bigoted, Misogynist, Hateful Ideas Of Others On An Empty Stomach. Eat, Then Go After The B******.
    6. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Build Multimillion-Dollar Churches/Temples/Mosques/Shrines To My Noodly Goodness When The Money Could Be Better Spent (Take Your Pick):

    1. Ending Poverty
    2. Curing Diseases
    3. Living In Peace, Loving With Passion, And Lowering The Cost Of Cable
    I Might be a Complex-Carbohydrate Omniscient Being, But I Enjoy The Simple Things In Life. I Ought To Know. I AM the Creator.

    7. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Go Around Telling People I Talk To You. You’re Not That Interesting. Get Over Yourself. And I Told You To Love Your Fellow Man, Can’t You Take A Hint?
    8. I’d Really Rather You Didn’t Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You If You Are Into, Um, Stuff That Uses A Lot Of Leather/Lubricant/Las Vegas. If The Other Person Is Into It, However (Pursuant To #4), Then Have At It, Take Pictures, And For The Love Of Mike, Wear a CONDOM! Honestly, It’s A Piece Of Rubber. If I Didn’t Want It To Feel Good When You Did IT I Would Have Added Spikes, Or Something.


    ( Oh come On MM! you know sometime’s a smug bastard is exactly that… a s.b. 😛 )

    Me: ROFL. you breath of fresh air, you!

  52. Hi MM 🙂

    This post really hit home. Warning:Long comment ahead.A good 6 years ago , I was really really depressed with my job , what I was doing vs what I wanted to , my friends had high paying jobs etc etc while I was decaying away in a start-up with 2.5K as a monthly salary.And then , a offer came by.It was everything that I had always dreamed of -most importantly work-wise.And then , I goofed up in the HR round.While I was returning home on my bike that day , I remember my eyes were brimming with tears and I remember taking a wrong turn and looking up at the 6Pm sky.And then, I saw a cross.It belonged to the famous Infant Jesus church in Bangalore , and it seemed to tell me that all was not lost.And even if it were , there would still be something in it for me.Two weeks later , I got the job , despite the goof-up :).
    This is something I’ve really practiced since then, when I’m really tensed about something(this happens almost all the time) , I pray , I leave everything to God , i feel lighter after that , and hey , if things do go wrong , I’ll have him to blame!

  53. Given that I recently wrote to you asking you to pray for me and generally do reach out to certain people to pray for me.. I feel compelled to comment on this post.

    So yes, I do reach out to certain people whose prayers I believe God does listen to , to wish well for me, to think the best for me., to pray for me. And mind you these people are not necessarily close friends. I don’t know if I would even qualify as your acquaintance, but I feel God will and does listen to your prayers and I feel you are capable of genuinely wanting the best for even strangers . And so the reason I reached out to you. How or why I felt those things? I don’t it a gut instinct. I know as I am praying at home or in a temple, suddenly something or someone will come to my mind and I pray for them…just wanting happiness for them…and I think, that makes a difference.

    I do believe in a supreme power and my relationship with God is my own. It may involve conversations or chants or temple visits or arguments. My business and His. It’s not religious and not defined by any rituals or Dos and Don’ts prescribed in any books. I was raised to wake up in the morning, seeing a picture of ‘God’ or looking at your palms as all the Gods are suppose to be resided in there. It may be true or false, but I know till date, that’s how I wake up…thinking of something good and nice. Thanking someone for a lovely yesterday and asking for another Good day or strength to handle a tough one. So some of these habitual things are good.

    And yes, I too believe that irrespective of a prayer what is destined is what will occur. But a prayer will help one handle the situation with clarity and calm and strength. And what is destined for you is always always always for the best.

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